tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post3609928070467704591..comments2023-05-12T03:41:26.596-04:00Comments on CU-WISE Blog: 9 Tips To Be A Better CommunicatorGail Carmichaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14173555781667297996noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post-295150436581418772009-08-14T15:26:11.062-04:002009-08-14T15:26:11.062-04:00Correction - seems to be written by a woman, so I ...Correction - seems to be written by a woman, so I doubt <i>she'll</i> see it here...Gail Carmichaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14173555781667297996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post-11728273550391764012009-08-14T15:23:47.424-04:002009-08-14T15:23:47.424-04:00I suppose it's worth pointing out that these t...I suppose it's worth pointing out that these tips were written elsewhere and just reposted here - I love seeing this sort of discussion going on, but maybe it would be worth the time to comment on the original story or write the author? I kind of doubt he'll see it here ;)Gail Carmichaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14173555781667297996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post-43550248805677608482009-08-12T01:28:22.586-04:002009-08-12T01:28:22.586-04:00I personally don't appreciate the inclusion of...I personally don't appreciate the inclusion of some of these tips in your article. Some are gender-neutral. Some are objective enough for any audience to benefit from. Then I guess something was tossed into the mix (#7, #8) and my heart ears heard the depth of your message.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07200508987510130596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post-86996452446918479412009-08-11T18:51:01.309-04:002009-08-11T18:51:01.309-04:00Loved the essay, right up to #7, which led off wit...Loved the essay, right up to #7, which led off with a rather offensive sterotype, and then.....oh, wait, have I waited a respectful interval before responding? Hope so, I wouldn't want to derail the fragile brain of the male(?) speaker.<br /><br />Geez.<br /><br />I guess I'll go clean my salad bowl -- just hate those brick chips in my salad.Valoriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08390727972738204487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post-14338768822689588702009-08-11T17:53:48.170-04:002009-08-11T17:53:48.170-04:00More things that bug me:
"Ladies, don't ...More things that bug me:<br /><br />"<em>Ladies, don't disturb a man laying bricks. Not interrupting men is key since they have a more linear communication style than women.</em>"<br /><br />Every time I read that, I hear someone saying "ladies, shut the hell up and let the men finish talking."<br /><br />And then, in case it wasn't insulting enough to the women, it's insulting the men too, implying something along the lines of "men are too dumb to keep their train of thought when interrupted."<br /><br />I'm leery of communication tips from someone who communicates them in a way that can be seen as, well, offensive.Terri Odahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10462169521890966235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post-66492647345870716782009-08-11T17:53:19.308-04:002009-08-11T17:53:19.308-04:00I gotta agree with Terri - It sounds like you'...I gotta agree with Terri - It sounds like you're advocating women shutup and not contribute in case a man wishes to speak. I don't think that's the message you wanted to convey.<br /><br />It's also an absolute. I know I have a very linear mind, but I have no penis.Br3nda of coffee.geek.nzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05914174361658884612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-852955729036902191.post-75385479401058772312009-08-11T17:17:08.611-04:002009-08-11T17:17:08.611-04:00Interrupting a speaker is a key signpost of lousy ...<em>Interrupting a speaker is a key signpost of lousy listening. Wait least four seconds after the person finishes speaking before you respond. This will help train you not to cut off the speaker until they are finished with an idea. Ladies, don't disturb a man laying bricks. Not interrupting men is key since they have a more linear communication style than women.</em><br /><br />This has been bugging me a lot since I first read it, and I think I'm starting to put my finger on why.<br /><br />I won't deny that not disturbing people is a nice, polite thing to do, and results in you hearing a lot more from them.<br /><br />However, I've watched a lot of women quietly, politely, wait for their turn in a conversation... and be completely shut out as a result. They've even done studies showing that women tend to defer to men in conversation, sometimes to our detriment.<br /><br />So if you want to be a better <em>communicator</em>, women especially need to learn when to interrupt and how to join the conversation. This tip seems really counterproductive to that.Terri Odahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10462169521890966235noreply@blogger.com